Thursday, June 24, 2010

Rebound Relationships




Are you in a rebound relationship? To those who are, please read this article. If you are gonna ask me "is this meant for me?", maybe just the fact that you even think it's about you means you are in this situation.
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Breaking up with a beloved one is hard, and while there are people who aren't upset if they just broke with the love of their life, many other people can't get over an ex for months and years. Sure, an ex belongs to the past and the sooner one forgets him or her, the better. However, rushing into a rebound relationship is not the way to forget an ex.

Rebound Relationships Defined
A rebound relationship is relationship forned when a person, who has just ended an affair with somebody he or she loved a lot, jumps into a new relationship in an attempt to heal his or her broken heart. A rebound relationship could be a one-night stand, but usually it is a longer-term relationship. The rebound date could be a really nice person but it could also be a random guy or girl.



Read more at Suite101: Rebound Relationships are Unhappy Relationships: Starting a New Relationship is Not the Way to Forget an Ex http://dating.suite101.com/article.cfm/rebound_relationships_are_unhappy_relationships#ixzz0ro55uAJW

The purpose of the rebound relationship is to forget the ex. Also, many people have fear of being single and if they had been dumped, a rebound relationship looks like a life-jacket. Needless to say, love is the last thing found in a rebound relationship. Rebound relationships can be short but they can also last for a long time.

Examples of Rebound Relationships
Rebound relationships come in many flavors, but one of the signs all rebound relationships have in common is that they are unhappy relationships – for one or both of the partners. For instance, if one of the partners has been dumped and he or she starts seeing somebody new, when the previous partner calls, the dumped one rushes back into the relationship and dumps the rebound date. For the rebound date, this situation is very hard to handle because it feels as if he or she is dumped because of doing something wrong, while the truth is that he or she has simply been used by his or her partner as a way to find some comfort.

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Blindsided, the left, or the person broken up with, does not realize that the initiator has been uncoupling for years. Uncoupling starts with secrets.Another case of an unhappy rebound relationship is when the dumped one finds a new date and the new date takes advantage of his or her broken heart. There are many such cases and sometimes it is quite possible to see that somebody in a rebound relationship marries after knowing his or her new partner for a couple of months only and becomes trapped in an unhappy relationship he or she can't easily break from. If the reader wants to read more about rebound relationships and rebound relationship stories, Rebound Relationships is one of the places to start with.


Generally, the best way to deal with a rebound relationship is to end it right away. Yes, it might feel hard to do it, but this is really the best move in such a situation.

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Cruise Tomorrow!!!

Yay! Tomorrow is my cruise and I'm so hyper and excited just to get the HELL out of HERE! I hope I can sleep tonight. i still have so much to do, like my nails, and get layers trimmed in my hair and getting contact lens solution, and a few other thingamajigs, then wait for my temp pay (even tho I get 2 checks a week they're smaller and I STILL feel like I have no money). I want my temp check so I can pay some bills before departing. Most bills are due the day I get back =(.

I wanna pay em so I can go with a relaxed mindset of not having anything to come back and worry about. Of course I need more money,esp since I had to buy a suitcase and stuff, and I went out for thai one night w/ a friend. But I'm bringing $160 with me for my cruise acct and then just have to buy lunch, water and admission to whatever in Canada on Sat. If I dont' spend $160 I get it back. I dont think I will. I'm not really a big drinker and alkee is the only thing you really pay for.

Gonna TRY to go to sleep soon. Gonna TRY to get up at 7 (ha!) so I can finish packing, go do the hair thing, ok maybe 8. 7 is unneccesary. I can see where this is going. Jen is gonna have to wake me up on this cruise cuz otherwise I aint getting up til NOON! eff that. She's an early bird and I'm a night owl. This is gonna be interesting. I CAN get up.... I just need a reason TO get up.

CIAO!!!

Monday, June 7, 2010

Slum





The place I'm working at as a rental agent is the shittiest apartment complex I've ever seen! This isn't actually it (pictured), but even online the picture was probably taken 2 decades ago, so it doesn't capture the derelict state of the complex today.
When I interviewed, I had to go to another complex in Highland Park. The complex where the main office is located was kinda on the shitty side. But I figued they'd be the typical 70s brick garden apartments which genrally have cheaper rents for people who need them. Shit, my rent is cheaper and my apartment is in much better condition. I just dont like my kitchen.
When I met with the owner, a hasidic jew named Ari, he made it sound like the complex was so nice and that we'd be rented out by the end of June. My job was to sit in the office and try get the place rented. No prob. Its the Jersey shore. Its summer. The place should sell it self. I'm not doing sales, so I really don't have to get out there and pimp the place but I have to get people to fill out applications.
On my first day (my first time seeing the complex), I drove up and was like "oh............" They WERE 70s looking garden apartments but were not maintained AT ALL! There were shutters that were rotted, moldy and falling off the building, gutters hanging off, cracked cement stairs, broken doors, weeds all over the place, crap like lawn furniture and decorations out in the grass in frontn of the apt (usually not allowed in the front of apts!) . I knew right away it was gonna be hard to rent a place like this.........unless it was to white trash or something. So ok, maybe I can get some white trash to fill out applications then.
A week after I started, I started heariing other tenants complaing to me. I had to write an introductory letter, I had no computer, printer, fax for a week - and I sitll have no internet! I'm on stolen wifi)to introduce myself to the tenants. I walked around at 5:15 to distribute them. Thinking 15 min was enough time so I could leave at 5:30. As went up to the doors to put the letters in the mailboxes, people stopped me to complain. They said the complex was falling apart. They showed me things in their houses, on their porches and stairs and balconies. At 6:30 I was done (its a small complex) and although I made a little extra money that day, I felt bad for these people! The company I'm temping for recently bought this property because the original owners died. I have heard that ever since this company took over, it's been horrible and no repairs are being made.
The super and other tenants told me that ceilings have fallen down, bathrooms have mold in them, there are ants, roaches, the windows are cheap and the place has been robbed several times. The windows look thin, and probably are the originals. The air conditioners too look like the originals and alot of tenants are complaining the ACs are broken. THe people here take their sweet time to order new ones. The super sleeps til 11 everyday and the maintence man,from the caribbean works his ass off doing hard labor for $10/hr! He's thinking of quitting! He should!
The whole complex is crumbling and one guy can't do everything. This place is a lawsuit waiting to happen. I woiuldn't want to live here! People are moving out like crazy, and of all the people who've seen the place, noone wants to fill out an application!
The Jew owner makes it seem like its my fault. I'm not a sales person. If I was getting commission (i e - MORE MONEY) I'd try harder but since I'm not, and I'm just an hourly temp, I don't. Plus, this isn't someplace you buy. You rent here. And as another tenant told me, it does not attract the market they want it to. It attracts mostly white trash and the elderly who live on low Social Security incomes.
Everyone who comes comments on the condition of the property. One guy who came yesterday said the balcony looked like it was gonna crumble. He said "You go out on the balcony first." I refused to go. I think by my refusal he knew something was up. No way in hell am I going on a rotted wood 1970s balcony when I have no health insurance! I have enough medical debt due to routine shit and stress related problems, thank you! Don't need any more! Noone seems to be suing. I'd defintely sue tho'. They have those lawyers that help unemployed people. Maybe my dad could sue. He has money. My dad sues everybody. Thats probably why he has so much $.
To welcome you into this lovely establishment, there is a mattress and box spring on the grass outside the development that someone dumped there. Noone has picked it up. The super says the garbage truck is supposed to pick it up. It hasn't. Bulk pick up is Wednesday and it's been there since last MONDAY! The garbage area, instead of a nice little dumpster with a fence , is an open dumptser with lots of little garbage cans next to it stuffed to capacity with SHIT, old tvs,beer bottles, furniture, toys, clothes, and they tip over and look a mess. . There is a sewage leak coming out of one of the apts which leaks into the parking lot forming a puddle of green sludge, and weeds growing in the cracks in the concrete. Peoples' mismatched lawn furniture is outside, along with grills, old phone books and storage bins.
I wouldn't want to live here. Its on the water (the shrewsbury river) and if this place were nicer,it could be a nice place to live. But its a health hazard! I have not had one application since I've been here. People come here and run. And its hard to make excuses for the poor state of this complex. I dont know if that means i'll get the ax after my vacation or not. I may just cuz they might need someone here period and they'll end my assign and send another temp.
I dont mind working here cuz its easy money and I watch dvds all day and get online when I can pick up the neighbors' wifi. But it gives me money to have a social life. On my UE alone I was really struggling and it's so hard to get by on that. This gives me a safety net and a source of happiness that I can be 'normal' for a while.
I just can't believe the condition of this place, and how noone is doing anything about it. They're threatening to kick residents out early if the dont sign the new lease (which arrived 3 mo prior to their renewal date). They have 15 days to sign a new lease. I think maybe they want as many people out as possible so they can maybe renovate? Not sure. Kinda hard when the one guy doing the renovating is threatening to quit, and the guy is too cheap to hire proper contractors to do it.
Homeboy gon' get sued right up the kosha kiester!
*shakes head*
P.s - once again I dont' know why this is all run together in one paragraph. I spaced it out and edited to re-space it but nothing worked =( . I dont know why this happens.

Friday, June 4, 2010

Dresses, diets, and missing shoes

Today I had a pretty relaxing day. I slept til 1pm (*yes!!!!*), my friend came over w/ her doggies to chat, I took a nap on the beach (why do I need to take a nap when I slept til 1 is beyond me... probably because I only slept 7hrs and I need 9), got a nice tan, and came home and showered.

So after my shower I decided to pull out some dresses that I want to wear for the cruise. I didn't know if they'd all fit. Some I wear now and have been wearing for years. Some are not cut out for the cruise, some may be too tight, and I know one needs to be taken in at the stomach (a problem for big boobed people =/).

Everything checked out ok, except with the white dress I want to wear for formal night. I wore it last 2yrs ago OUT, but put it on here and there for profile pics and such since then. Its a little tight at the boob area (figures!!!) and it zips in the back. It zips fine til it gets to the top. Basically I need to lose some boob and PRONTO! (well.......I always thought I could lose some boob).

I recently started this diet (and then cheated this morning by eating garlic chicken with linguini, vodka sauce, sundried tomatos and basil. I wanted to eat REAL food! I dont deal w/ dieting well. I am a connoisseur of fine foods and like to eat good stuff! But being unemployed doesn't always allow me to eat well. I've had lots of stretches of oatmeal and granola diets, and rice diets (altho its not really a diet i did lose weight). I really hate eating tasteless food. But my thoughts right now are, just dont be HUNGRY. I'll eat good stuff on the cruise and most likely gain all the weight back cuz I'll binge eat since I was restricting myself, but if I can just wear the white dress i'll be ok. I dont really have anything else to wear to formal night! I have evening gowns but they were from before my weight gain. I weighed 150-160 when I wore those dresses. Now well.... lets not go there.

At my temp assign, I bought a carton of egg whites for $5.99, some frozen veggies and I made egg white omlettes. I am continuing to do this at home. I know I'm not gonna be taking in enough calories by eating only egg whites and veggies but... I really need to drop weight fast. and It aint like I'm starving myself. Lets see how long I can keep this up. I got paid early yesterday so I have some money. I hung the dress up on my closet door to look at it, to remind me why I'm doing this. I am also incorporating chicken into this diet w/ only veggies. No carbs (except this mornign when I cheated). I HATE veggies! This is why I tend to binge because theres nothing on my plate that I LIKE. Idont know how this will pan out but I'm not starving myself but merely doing a super calorie reduction. But I'm active and need more cals than a sedentary person. when I ate weight watchers meals I was starving and weak and tired and i knew I wasnt taking in enough calories. You can't win. Lets see how this plays out tho'. I'm sure I'll lose something!



Egg white omlette w/ spinach. I've been using an assortment of frozen veggies. Either way, I dont like the food. =p~


Another issue I have is I lost my silver stilettos. I brought them to AC earlier this year and wanted to wear them tonight to AC for my friends bday din. I haven't seen them since the last AC trip. I know I didn't leave them cuz we got everything from the room. I really have no other nice shoes to wear to a formal evening and to my own bday. I will wear my silver flats tonight but have to really go thru everything and my car to try to find these shoes. I need at least one pair of going out shoes. I don't know if I will be able to buy more.

Bday -

My bday is a-comin' up! I still am trying to find a place to eat that everyone will like, agree with pricewise, and is decent. I refuse to eat at Applebees, Fridays, Tuesdays, Chilis or any of those franchises! Everything else is upscale with dishes ranging from $18 for pasta to $35 to filet mignon. Other option is bar food. Thats not exactly what I had in mind. I know my outing is gonna be expensive. It s hould be looked at as a weekend activity, not necc as a birthday. I dont' know. I 'm thinking Lake House (pictured below). The inside is a bar w/ bands (not my thing - i hateeee alternative rock!!), but the outside is really pretty and its on a lake w a fountain. I went there once for wsomeone else's bday. The food is eh. Nothing special. Its american. But it may be the best bet pricewise. I DEF want to sit outside. Otherwise, I ain 't going there.

Parasailing prices went up to $65/per person =/ Its not much. I'm gonna try to get a group discount also. I wish I didn't have such expensive taste! Esp since I am only temping.

I ate an egg white omlette 3o min ago and am still STARVING! I gotta leave tho for AC so maybe I'll make another one and eat it when i get there.I'm just gonna have like 2 drinks at Buddakhan and hang out for a while (not a gambler) and head home. Got a drs appt and its a supa long drive. I kinda don't want to go but..... I promised I would.